6 Types of Guys to Avoid

Disclaimer: This article is presented from a Christian perspective and is intended for those who align with or are interested in Biblical values. It is not meant to impose these beliefs on others but to offer insights and information for those who find it relevant.

o one has it all together, including you and me. So let’s not misconstrue this article as a quest for perfection in finding a partner. Instead, it’s about reflecting on what we truly desire in a relationship and being mindful of potential warning signs that could point to deeper issues down the road. Perfection is unattainable, but there is real value in balancing emotional instincts with logical reasoning when it comes to matters of the heart. The goal isn’t to nit-pick or judge, but to encourage thoughtful decision-making that leads to healthier, more fulfilling connections.

Ladies, here are six types of guys you might want to cross off your list:

The "Half Committed" Guy

He’s into you one week, but the next, he’s saying, “Let’s just be friends.” One week it’s flowers and thoughtful messages, the next, it’s dead silence and unanswered texts. If your relationship feels like a yo-yo, it might be time to cut the string.

You deserve someone who is genuinely committed, not someone playing emotional hide-and-seek or dragging you along for the ride. A healthy relationship includes clarity, not confusion.

The "Kind of Christian" Guy

He says he’s a Christian, but his actions don’t match up. He may attend church out of habit or social expectation, but lacks a genuine faith that shapes his decisions and character. Don’t settle for a lukewarm believer who talks the talk but doesn’t walk the walk. Seek a man whose life, values, and actions reflect a sincere pursuit of Christ—not perfection, but authenticity.

The "Hook-Up Only" Guy

If he only reaches out for a quick make-out session or late-night hangouts, texts, chances are he’s not in it for the right reasons.

Healthy relationships are built on trust, shared values, and emotional connection, not just physical intimacy. If he's not interested in your thoughts, goals, or dreams, don’t waste your time on someone who doesn’t see you as a whole person. You’re worth more than fleeting moments.

The "Never Have a Job" Guy

If he can’t take care of himself, he’s not ready to take care of you—or contribute to a stable, shared future. While everyone goes through rough patches, long-term lack of motivation or responsibility is a red flag. Choose a man who is driven, accountable, and working towards something, even if he's not "there" yet. Effort and direction matter more than status.

The "White Lies" Guy

Constantly telling white lies and sneaking around? Say goodbye before things get serious. Trust is essential in any relationship, it’s the foundation everything else is built on. If he’s vague about where he is or who he’s with, there may be more going on beneath the surface. Transparency, honesty, and open communication should be non-negotiables.

The "Super Controlling" Guy

It’s normal to check in with each other in a relationship, that’s part of care. But it’s not normal for him to monitor your every move, question your every decision, or try to control what you wear, who you talk to, or where you go. You deserve a partner who trusts and respects you, not one who manipulates or belittles. If he’s snooping, guilt-tripping, or playing mind games, he’s not worth your time or your peace.

As mentioned at the start, we all come into relationships with flaws. This isn’t about dismissing someone for being human, it’s about ensuring you’re entering relationships with clear goals, self-awareness, and non-negotiable standards.

You teach others how to treat you by the boundaries you set and the values you hold. So pursue relationships with conviction and intention. Keep growing into the kind of person who attracts the love and respect you deserve, and never settle for less.

Disclaimer: The views expressed in this article reflect my personal Christian faith and worldview. The content is shared to encourage those who resonate with these beliefs and is not intended to impose beliefs or serve as professional psychological advice. I respect that each reader may hold different beliefs and invite you to engage with the content in a way that honours your own values.